Most people don’t run out of things to say on a first date. They run out of good questions, and the evening slides into a job interview with drinks.
What follows is 65 questions sorted by what you are trying to find out: personality, values, dating intentions, humor, chemistry. Under each one you get the read, meaning what a person’s answer usually tells you about them.
You’ll also get the handful of psychology findings that hold up on this topic, a few notes on pacing, and a list of questions that belong on a third date at the earliest.
How to Use These Questions Without Sounding Like an Interviewer
Most lists hand you three dozen questions and stop there. No word on when to ask them, or whether you should.
The delivery does at least as much work as the wording. Four principles cover it.
1. Take Turns
The most common first date mistake is firing off question after question while giving away nothing yourself. It reads as either an interrogation or a lack of nerve.
Susan Sprecher and colleagues tested this directly in a 2013 study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Pairs of strangers who alternated asking and answering liked each other more, felt closer, and enjoyed the conversation more than pairs where one person disclosed everything first and then swapped roles.
So treat every question as an invitation. You ask “What’s your ideal weekend?”, they answer, and then you answer it too before moving on.
Both people get the same chance to show who they are, and neither one ends the night feeling audited.
2. Start Light, Then Go Deeper
Not every question belongs in the first five minutes.
Arthur Aron’s “36 Questions That Lead to Love” gets quoted everywhere, usually with the interesting part left out. The 36 questions came in three sets, and each set asked for a little more than the one before it. The escalation is the mechanism. Trust builds in stages.
A first date works the same way:
- First half hour: hobbies, travel, food, work, everyday life.
- Once you’re both comfortable: values, ambitions, what they’re building toward.
- Late in the evening, if the conversation has earned it: relationship goals, family, the more personal material.
Skip to the third stage in minute four and the whole thing feels off, even when the question is a good one.
3. You Won’t Get Through 65 Questions
There are 65 here because people are different, not because anyone should attempt all of them. Five to ten good ones will carry a whole evening.
Read this as a menu. Pick what suits the person in front of you and let the rest go. Dates that go well almost never sound rehearsed.
4. Watch What Happens After the Answer
The answer is half the information. The rest is in what your date does next.
Notice whether they:
- turn the question back on you
- seem curious about your answer, or wait politely for their next turn
- give you something to work with, or stop at four words
- carry the conversation somewhere new on their own
- remember what you told them twenty minutes ago
That behavior predicts compatibility better than the content of any single answer.
Someone who listens, remembers and builds on what you said is showing you interest and social skill in real time. Those two things outlast a shared taste in movies.
Icebreakers for the First Ten Minutes
The opening minutes set the temperature for the rest of the date. A good icebreaker costs nothing to answer, takes the pressure off both of you, and leaves a door open for later.
You are not trying to impress anyone with the cleverness of your question. You are finding out whether talking to this person is easy.
Take two or three that fit the moment and leave the rest.
1. What’s something you’ve been looking forward to lately?
What it tells you: Where their attention goes when nothing forces it anywhere. You also walk away with a topic you can pick up again in ten minutes.
2. What does a perfect weekend look like for you?
What it tells you: How they spend the time nobody pays them for. Someone whose ideal Saturday is a quiet apartment and a book will struggle with a partner who books something for every hour.
3. If you could get on a plane tomorrow, where would you go?
What it tells you: Appetite for risk, and how far they’ve already been. Most people answer with either a place they miss or a place they’ve been putting off, and both make good stories.
4. What’s the best meal you’ve had this year?
What it tells you: Food is the cheapest way into personality, family, travel and money habits at once, and nobody feels examined while answering it.
5. What’s something you’ve learned recently that surprised you?
What it tells you: Whether curiosity survived their twenties. People who still learn things for fun rarely run out of conversation.
6. Morning person or night owl?
What it tells you: A small logistics question with a long tail. Two people whose good hours never overlap end up sharing a calendar and not much else.
7. What hobby would you take up if money and time weren’t a problem?
What it tells you: The version of themselves they haven’t gotten around to yet. Answers like “learn to fly” and “build furniture properly” describe different people.
8. How do you usually spend a day off?
What it tells you: Who and what gets their spare time: friends, family, the gym, a side project, the sofa. This is their real life rather than the highlight reel.
9. What show or movie do you wish you could watch again for the first time?
What it tells you: Taste, sense of humor, and how they feel about being moved by things. It also opens into books, music and podcasts without any effort.
10. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
What it tells you: How comfortable they are volunteering something personal on request. Watch the size of what they choose to share, which matters more here than the content.
11. How did you end up doing what you do?
What it tells you: Far more than “what do you do?” ever gets you. You hear about detours, dropped plans and the people who pushed them, which is where the interesting part of a career lives.
Why These Openers Work
None of them can be closed off with a yes or a no. Each one asks for a story, and stories give you something to follow.
That is the whole trick. While your date is talking, your job is to listen for the loose thread, not to line up your next question.
If they mention hiking in Colorado, stay there. What made that trip worth remembering? Who were they with? If they mention taking up pottery, ask what got them into it and how bad the first three attempts were.
One answer that turns into twenty minutes of easy conversation beats ten questions answered in order.
Questions That Show You What They Value
Early dating runs on chemistry, jokes and physical attraction. All three are real, and none of them tell you how this person behaves when a decision costs them something.
You won’t map someone’s character over one dinner. You can get a decent sketch of what drives them, how they weigh choices, and what they refuse to trade away.
Space these out. Two or three across an evening is plenty, and each one needs room to breathe.
12. What’s something you’re proud of?
What it tells you: Which part of their life they measure themselves by. A promotion, a marathon, a hard conversation they had been putting off, a friend they got through a bad year. The category is the answer.
13. Who has had the biggest influence on your life?
What it tells you: We tend to admire the traits we’re trying to grow. Listen to which quality they praise in that person, because that is the quality they’re aiming at.
14. If you had an extra day every week, what would you do with it?
What it tells you: What their current life squeezes out. It also hints at whether they feel stretched thin or reasonably in control.
15. What’s one thing you’d never compromise on?
What it tells you: Where their line sits. A vague answer here is information too, since some people have genuinely never had to find out.
16. What does success mean to you?
What it tells you: Some people mean money or title. Others mean time, freedom, or a family that likes being around them. Neither answer is wrong, and a couple who define it differently will argue about how the next ten years get spent.
17. What have you changed your mind about in the last few years?
What it tells you: Whether they can revise a position without treating it as a defeat. That capacity does a lot of quiet work in a long relationship.
18. When did you last do something that scared you a bit?
What it tells you: How they handle discomfort. Some people go looking for it, some accept it when it arrives, some organize their lives around avoiding it entirely.
19. If your closest friends described you in three words, what would they pick?
What it tells you: Their self-image, plus the gap between how they see themselves and how they hope to be seen. Both halves are useful.
20. What’s something a difficult year taught you?
What it tells you: This asks for the lesson and not the wound, which lets someone show resilience without unloading their history over starters.
21. What do you think people worry too much about?
What it tells you: Their sense of proportion. Someone who says “what other people think” is describing a very different inner life from someone who says “money”.
22. If you could fix one thing about the way we live now, what would it be?
What it tells you: What they notice about the world and who they notice it on behalf of. Broad enough to stay a conversation and not a debate.
23. What habit has made the biggest difference to your life?
What it tells you: Habits are priorities with a timestamp. Training, reading, cooking, calling their mother on Sundays, all of it describes them more accurately than any goal they name.
24. How do you usually make a big decision?
What it tells you: Spreadsheet, gut, or a long phone call with one trusted person. You are watching for how a future joint decision about a job, a city or a mortgage would actually get made.
Finding out you both hike, both love Italian food and both rewatch the same series in December feels like evidence. It’s mostly just pleasant.
Two people with almost nothing in common on paper can agree completely about honesty, money, how you treat family, and what you do when one of you is having a terrible month. That agreement is what carries a relationship through the years when the hobbies change.
The reverse holds as well. A shared interest in climbing will not settle an argument about whether you move cities for one person’s career.
Use these questions to understand how someone thinks, not to check their answers against yours. Being interested in a different view is worth more on a first date than agreeing.
Questions About What They Want From Dating
A lot of promising first dates die of one boring cause: two people wanted different things and neither said so.
Someone looking for a partner spends three months with someone looking for company on Fridays. Nobody lied. It just never came up, and the bill for that arrives much later than it needed to.
These questions get at intentions without demanding a status update before dessert.
25. What made you start dating again?
What it tells you: Motive. “I’ve been ready for a while” and “my friends made me download the app” lead to very different next three months.
26. What does a good relationship look like to you?
What it tells you: Their model of the thing you might build. Some people describe a team, some describe a refuge, some describe two independent lives with good overlap.
27. What have you learned from past relationships?
What it tells you: Everyone arrives with history. The useful signal is whether they can name their own part in how it went, or whether every ex was the problem.
28. What makes you interested in someone?
What it tells you: What they look for once looks stop being the whole story. Kindness, wit, drive, curiosity, calm. It also hints at what they think they bring.
29. What’s the biggest green flag when you meet someone new?
What it tells you: Their standards, phrased positively. Someone who says “they text back like a normal adult” has had a rough couple of years and is telling you so.
30. Do you think compatibility is something you have or something you build?
What it tells you: How they’re likely to behave the first time things get hard. People who think of compatibility as built tend to stay in the room for the difficult conversation.
31. What puts you off someone quickly?
What it tells you: Their dealbreakers, and how reasonable those sound out loud. Keep it light, since a long bitter list this early is itself an answer.
32. How much time on your own do you need?
What it tells you: Their appetite for closeness and how they recharge. Two homebodies work. Two people who need three nights a week alone work. A mismatch here becomes a recurring fight about nothing.
33. What do you hope your life looks like in a few years?
What it tells you: Marriage, children, cities and careers all tend to appear in the answer without you having to ask about any of them directly.
34. What do people get wrong about dating right now?
What it tells you: Whether they’re hopeful, tired, or somewhere in between. It also opens up apps, ghosting and how they think people should treat each other.
35. How do you like to be looked after when you’ve had a bad week?
What it tells you: Practical and revealing. Some people want to talk it out, some want dinner made and the subject dropped, some want to be left alone until Sunday. Knowing which saves months of guessing.
Consistency Tells You More Than Content
None of these questions has a correct answer, so stop grading and start listening for whether the answers hold together.
Someone tells you at eight o’clock that they want something serious. At ten they’re describing how they left two relationships the week they got complicated. The stories are the better source.
It cuts the other way too. A person who admits they’re still working out what they want has just told you the truth on a first date, which is harder than it sounds.
What you want to leave with is a fair sense of whether their expectations line up with yours, and not a set of answers that flattered you.
Funny Questions for When the Conversation Stalls
Every date has a flat patch. It usually arrives around the time the plates are cleared.
Silence isn’t an emergency, but a light question resets the mood faster than reaching for something profound. Funny questions drop the stakes, get people telling stories, and show you a side of someone that earnest topics hide.
The good ones don’t sound prepared. They just give your date permission to be silly for a minute.
36. If you could be instantly excellent at one useless skill, what would you pick?
What it tells you: Interests they’ve never had time for, delivered as a joke. The follow-up story is usually the good bit.
37. What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten?
What it tells you: Nerve, travel history, and how they behave when someone hands them something questionable on a plate.
38. If your life had a theme song, what would it be?
What it tells you: Whether they answer with the song they love or the song that mocks them slightly. The second type is usually good company.
39. Which fictional character would be your best friend?
What it tells you: The traits they enjoy being around, which is not always the same as the traits they admire.
40. What’s your most useless talent?
What it tells you: Whether they can be the punchline without minding it. That single quality makes someone much easier to spend a Tuesday with.
41. If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest?
What it tells you: Nothing serious, which is the point. You’re testing imagination and whether they’ll play along with a silly premise.
42. What’s the funniest thing that’s happened to you this year?
What it tells you: A better question than “most embarrassing moment”, because it asks for a story they enjoy telling and still shows you how they handle a mess.
43. Would you rather always be 30 minutes early or 30 minutes late?
What it tells you: Their relationship with time, which sounds minor until you’ve waited outside a movie theater twice.
44. Give up coffee forever or never watch another movie?
What it tells you: Not much, and that’s fine. Small dilemmas keep a conversation bouncing when the heavier topics have run out.
45. Mountains or the ocean?
What it tells you: The life they see for themselves once they have a say in it. Ask why, and the answer gets interesting.
46. What’s the worst haircut you’ve ever had?
What it tells you: Everyone has one, so it costs nothing to answer. You get a story, a photo on their phone somewhere, and the first shared laugh of the evening.
Laughing Together Does the Work
You don’t have to be funny to be good company.
Barbara Fraley and Arthur Aron ran an experiment in 2004 where pairs of strangers completed a task together, half of them under deliberately absurd conditions. The pairs who ended up laughing reported feeling closer afterwards. Shared laughter, rather than one person performing, did the work.
So don’t chase the perfect line. Notice the moments where you both crack up, because those are what either of you will remember about tonight in a week’s time.
If a throwaway question turns into a ten minute story, let it run. You have nowhere else to be.
Flirty Questions and When They Land
Flirting makes a date memorable. Timing decides whether it works or makes someone reach for their coat.
The usual error is trying to manufacture chemistry that hasn’t shown up yet. A playful question that charms after an hour of easy talk can land like a bad audition in minute five.
These build on something that already exists. If your date is teasing you, asking their own questions and leaning in, they’ll go with it. If they’re still warming up, stay on the lighter material a while longer.
47. What makes someone attractive to you?
What it tells you: What they actually notice, which is often more specific and stranger than the traits people list on an app profile.
48. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever had?
What it tells you: The quality they most want recognized. It’s a back door into their self-image, and it gives you an honest compliment to pay later.
49. What’s your idea of a perfect date?
What it tells you: Less about the venue than the feeling they’re after: relaxed, adventurous, alone together, out in a crowd. Useful for planning the second one.
50. Do you think people know straight away when there’s chemistry?
What it tells you: Their theory of attraction, and a light way of asking about the present moment without asking about it.
51. What small thing catches your attention in someone?
What it tells you: The details that matter to them: how someone laughs, how they order, whether they thank the waiter. Grand gestures rarely make this list.
52. What’s the most romantic thing anyone has done for you?
What it tells you: Their definition of romance, which ranges from a weekend in Lisbon to someone learning their coffee order. Worth knowing before you plan anything.
53. Do you think anyone actually knows how to flirt, or are we all improvising?
What it tells you: It usually gets a laugh and a confession, and it makes the whole business of flirting feel less like a performance for both of you.
54. What do people misread about you when they first meet you?
What it tells you: An invitation to be honest that doesn’t weigh much. Quiet people often say they seem cold, confident people often say they seem arrogant, and the answers tend to be true.
55. What’s something you’d want a partner to be honest with you about?
What it tells you: Warmer than it looks. You learn what they’re afraid of being kept from, and you set a decent tone for how the two of you would handle awkward news.
Flirting Has to Be Mutual
Good flirting has nothing to do with finding the right question. It has everything to do with reading whether the other person is meeting you halfway.
The signs are unsubtle when they’re there. They hold eye contact, tease you back, ask their own playful questions, and keep the thread going once you hand it over.
When those signs are missing, ease off. Curiosity about the person in front of you is more attractive than any line you could have rehearsed on the way over.
Questions to Ask Him vs Questions to Ask Her
Half the advice online splits first date questions by gender, as though men and women arrive needing different software.
They don’t. What makes a conversation work is the same either way: open questions, real attention, and a willingness to answer what you asked.
There is one honest difference, and it has more to do with habit than biology. Men are asked about their emotional lives less often, so a question about who they lean on can land as a small novelty. Women are asked about their looks and their plans constantly, so a question about what they think tends to be a relief.
The two sets below play to that, and either set works on anyone.
First Date Questions to Ask Him
56. What are you working toward at the moment?
What it tells you: Where his energy goes: work, a qualification, a house, getting fit again, a family plan. You also hear what occupies him on the drive home.
57. What’s an achievement that means more to you than it does to anyone else?
What it tells you: Men often pick the thing that took years and impressed nobody. That answer tells you what he respects in himself.
58. Who do you talk to when something goes wrong?
What it tells you: Whether he has anyone. A man whose only answer is “I deal with it myself” is describing a load a partner will end up carrying with him.
59. What do you wish people understood better about men?
What it tells you: His experience of expectation and stereotype, in his own words. It opens an honest conversation and rarely turns into an argument.
60. What do you admire most about your closest friends?
What it tells you: The company he keeps describes the standards he keeps. Whatever he praises in them is what he values in people generally.
First Date Questions to Ask Her
61. What are you into that nobody ever asks you about?
What it tells you: You get the version of her that comes out with old friends, and usually a subject she can talk about for twenty minutes without checking her phone.
62. What have you got much better at in the last few years?
What it tells you: Growth she chose rather than growth that happened to her. Answers like “saying no” and “not apologizing for everything” carry a lot of history.
63. What advice do you wish someone had given you ten years ago?
What it tells you: The lesson she paid for. It shows you her sense of perspective and, quietly, what she came through to get it.
64. What do people assume about you that’s wrong?
What it tells you: A chance to correct the record early, which most people take gratefully. You learn what she’s tired of explaining.
65. If a friend introduced you to someone, how would they describe you?
What it tells you: How she thinks the people who know her best would sum her up. Fond, funny answers usually mean a settled sense of self.
Gender Matters Less Than Curiosity
People go looking for “the perfect questions to ask a man” or “the best questions to ask a woman”. The search itself is the wrong shape.
Ask open questions, listen properly, follow the interesting thread, and let the evening go where it wants to. That works on everyone.
Nobody remembers which questions they were asked. They remember how the conversation felt.
Questions to Skip on a First Date
Knowing what to leave alone is worth as much as having good questions ready.
Some questions put a person on the defensive, some turn dinner into a screening interview, and some ask for trust that two hours can’t have built yet.
None of these subjects are permanently off limits. They just belong further in.
“Why are you still single?”
Why to skip it: Even said warmly, it asks someone to account for a fault you’ve implied they have. Nobody has ever enjoyed answering it.
“How much do you earn?”
Why to skip it: Money matters enormously later on. Raised over a first drink, it makes the whole evening feel like a valuation.
“How many people have you slept with?”
Why to skip it: Whatever number comes back, someone gets judged. It has improved exactly zero first dates.
“So tell me about your ex.”
Why to skip it: Exes come up on their own, briefly. Inviting a full account puts a third person at the table for the rest of the night.
“When do you want to get married?”
Why to skip it: Asking someone to put a date on their life before you’ve shared an appetizer turns the evening into an application process. Question 33 gets you the same information gently.
“Do you want children?”
Why to skip it: This one genuinely has to be settled, and for some people it can’t wait long. It still goes better on date three, once there’s mutual interest worth protecting.
“Can I see your dating app?”
Why to skip it: Asking to inspect someone’s phone on a first date announces exactly how the next six months would go.
“Why did your last relationship fail?”
Why to skip it: The word “fail” asks them to assign blame in front of a stranger. Question 27 gets you the same insight and a better mood.
“Do people usually find you attractive?”
Why to skip it: Any version of this is fishing, either for reassurance about them or about you. Both readings make the table go quiet.
“Where do you see this going?”
Why to skip it: A fair question in week six. After two hours it asks for a certainty neither of you has, and the pressure tends to produce a polite lie.
Anything That Needs a Number
Why to skip it: Salary, body count, weight, age gaps, how many dates they’ve been on this month. Quantified questions turn a person into a spec sheet, and they hear it happening.
Character Shows Up in Small Moments
Plenty of people arrive at a first date in detective mode, determined to catch a red flag before the drinks land.
It’s a mindset that guarantees a stiff, guarded evening, and it doesn’t even work. Nobody reveals their worst quality on request.
Watch the small stuff instead. How do they speak to the waiter? What happens when the order arrives wrong? Do they talk about their ex like a human being? Do they ask you anything, and do they wait for the answer?
That is where character sits, and it’s much harder to fake for two hours than a good answer to a hard question.
Staying Safe When You Meet Someone New
Being excited about a date and being sensible about it are not in conflict.
The overwhelming majority of first dates are uneventful. A few precautions still cost you nothing, particularly when you met on an app and this is the first time you’ll be in the same room.
Before you go:
- Meet somewhere public.
- Tell one friend where you’ll be and who with.
- Arrange your own ride there and back.
- Keep your home address and financial details to yourself.
- If something feels wrong, leave. You owe no explanation.
Worth knowing too: romance scams work slowly. The person invests weeks or months in the emotional groundwork before money is ever mentioned.
So when someone you barely know starts talking about a sudden emergency, a can’t-miss investment, or a favor involving your bank details, that is the point to stop. No exceptions for how well the conversation has been going.
Taking precautions has nothing to do with expecting the worst. It just lets you relax and enjoy the evening.
What to Ask Yourself After the Date
Most people walk home wondering whether the other person liked them. The more useful question is whether you liked them.
Attraction is loud and it drowns out judgment. Before you start decoding their last text, give yourself five minutes on how the evening actually felt.
Seven questions worth answering honestly.
Did I Feel Like Myself?
If you spent two hours performing a slightly better edition of yourself, that’s worth sitting with.
A promising connection usually gets more relaxed as the evening goes on. Anxiety that climbs steadily is telling you something.
Was the Conversation Balanced?
Did you both ask questions and both tell stories, or did one of you run the evening while the other supplied reactions?
A good first date is a conversation. A monologue with an audience of one is a warning.
Was I Curious About Them?
Attraction is easy to feel and easy to misread. Curiosity is the better signal.
Did you want to hear their answers? Did follow-up questions arrive on their own? Did you leave with things you still wanted to ask?
Did Our Values Seem to Line Up?
Matching opinions on everything is neither realistic nor interesting.
The question is whether you two seem to want a similar kind of life: how you treat people, how honest you are, what you’d do with a windfall or a crisis.
How Did They Treat Other People?
Think back to the staff, the person who took the coats, the driver.
Were they polite when it cost them nothing, and patient when something went wrong? Kindness that only appears when someone is watching tends to slip in the small moments.
Did I Feel Heard?
Did they remember what you told them early on and come back to it? Did they ask anything that showed they’d been listening?
Or did every subject find its way back to them within a minute? Being listened to is the foundation everything else in a relationship gets built on.
Am I Excited for the Right Reasons?
Be honest about which of these is true: you’re interested in them, or you’re relieved that somebody was interested in you.
Those feel identical on the walk home and lead to very different relationships. People who choose a partner because they enjoy that person’s company do far better than people choosing against the fear of being alone.
You Don’t Need Fireworks
Movies have sold everyone the same ending: a first date that finishes in certainty, with both people quietly sure they’ve just met the one.
Real dates are quieter than that. A great many strong relationships started with two people who thought the evening went well and wanted a second one.
So don’t ask whether the date was perfect. Ask whether you enjoyed the company enough to want more of it. That answer is usually enough to act on.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Is the 3-3-3 Rule for Dating?
It depends entirely on who’s using it, because no single version is agreed on. The most common one suggests taking three dates, three weeks and three months before making any big call about a new relationship.
Other versions exist and contradict it. The sound part of the idea is simply that trust takes time, and no rule will tell you how much time you personally need.
How Many Questions Should You Ask on a First Date?
Five to ten open questions will fill an entire evening if you follow up properly on the answers. Quantity is not the problem anyone actually has.
What Are Good First Date Questions?
Anything that asks for a story: how they ended up in their job, the best thing they ate this year, what they’d do with a free day, what they’re working toward.
Avoid anything answerable with one word, and avoid anything that sounds like it came off a form.
How Do You Keep a Conversation Going on a First Date?
Follow up before you move on. When they mention a trip, ask what made it stick. When they mention a hobby, ask how it started and how badly it went at first.
Two hours of conversation comes out of three good threads, not thirty prepared questions.
What Should You Ask on a Second Date?
A second date can take more weight: family, childhood, what they want from work, the experiences that shaped how they operate.
Questions 12 to 24 and 25 to 35 above are built for exactly this stage, and they’ll feel less abrupt than they would have done on date one.
Is It OK to Ask Deep Questions on a First Date?
Yes, once you’ve built up to them. The same question that feels intrusive in minute five can be the best part of the evening in hour two.
Watch how much your date is offering and match it. That’s the whole skill.
Sources and Methodology
The psychology in this guide comes from three studies:
- Aron, Melinat, Aron, Vallone and Bator (1997), The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. The source of the 36 Questions, and of the finding that self-disclosure works best in escalating stages.
- Sprecher, Treger, Wondra, Hilaire and Wallpe (2013), Taking turns: Reciprocal self-disclosure promotes liking in initial interactions, Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Pairs who alternated asking and answering liked each other more than pairs who took turns in long blocks.
- Fraley and Aron (2004), The effect of a shared humorous experience on closeness in initial encounters, Personal Relationships. Strangers who laughed together during a task reported feeling closer than those who didn’t.
The questions themselves, and the read on each answer, come from MarriageScience’s editorial work on dating and relationship formation rather than from any single study.